Alia joined her organization as a trainee six months ago. She puts her best into her work. But lately, she is frustrated. Her manager seems partial — constantly appreciating others while barely acknowledging her work.
Sid recently began working as a fashion designer. He was presenting few design options to the team when his manager interrupted: “Sid, talk properly. Speak up. Don’t trail off.”
The comment caught him off guard. He felt embarrassed, even angry. Why did his manager have to be that harsh — specially in front of everyone?
Both Sonia and Sid are dealing with resentment at work.
It starts small — a comment, a missed acknowledgment. Soon, it begins to color how you see your manager, your colleagues or even your job.
Here’s how you can stop resentment:
1. Go deep and isolate what’s really bothering you: resentment is often a symptom, not the core problem. Ask yourself:
- What triggered this feeling?
- Have I clearly communicated my expectations — or just assumed others would notice?
For Sonia, the real issue might not be “partiality” — it could be a lack of feedback. For Sid, maybe it’s about feeling publicly undermined.
2. Consider other perspectives: When emotions run high, perspective narrows. Ask “what could be other reasons for his or her behavior?”
Maybe Sonia’s manager is overwhelmed and unintentionally overlooking her work. Maybe Sid’s manager didn’t mean to embarrass him but wanted to push him to project confidence.
3. Communicate — clearly and constructively, stay factual and forward-looking.
For example, Sonia can speak to her manager: “I have not received much feedback lately. I would appreciate your thoughts on how I can improve or where I’m doing well.”
Or in Sid’s case: “During the last presentation, I felt taken aback by your feedback. I would really value understanding what I can do differently next time.”
4. Let go — Sometimes, even after reflection and communication, things don’t change. That’s when letting go becomes essential. Remember, your energy is too valuable to waste on what’s already behind you.
💬 Over to you:
Have you ever felt resentment at work? What helped you deal with it — a conversation, a mindset shift, or just letting go?
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