Sometime back, I went through a rough patch at work. It was a difficult situation; it evoked a medley of emotions: anger, frustration, disappointment…. Such encounters are common for most professionals, we all go through our share of ups and downs. By evening, I had taken charge of myself. I was feeling almost normal as I entered home. I congratulated myself for getting over it so well. hashtag#resilience
After dinner, I decided to share the situation with my best friend, my husband. It was a bad idea!
As I narrated the incident, all the negative emotions flooded back! I could feel my temples throbbing, the all too familiar headache from afternoon returning – my body’s way to say, “you are stressed, stop this”! I slept poorly.
Next morning, a colleague who was in know of the situation came to speak. As I started discussing, I could feel the rush of the familiar emotions. That’s when I realized what was happening.
The incident happened only once! And I got over it, at least partially. Yet, by discussing it, I was reliving the incident again and again!
Dr Joe Dispenza in his book You are the Placebo says “Your brain and body don’t know the difference between having an actual experience in your life and just thinking about the experience—neurochemically, it’s the same.”
I decided to stop talking and thinking about it. Honestly, it wasn’t easy. My mind wanted to go back to it again. But, I consciously held it back.
So, next time you go through a difficult situation, HIT RESET.
Draw learning from the experience! But, avoid reliving it, simply HIT RESET
At the outset, I would like to thank you for stopping by my Blog.
I believe that there is nothing right or wrong in this world. What’s right in this moment and context may be wrong in another moment and context. This belief has inspired me to name my blog ‘Perspectives’.
Perspectives is a platform for me to share my experiences, thoughts and perspectives on various subjects. You may have a different point of view. I look forward to hearing them, these are the triggers for rich and deep conversations.
On personal front, I live in Mumbai, India. I love to read; Somerset Maugham and Nevil Shute are my favorite authors. My favorite books are The Razor’s Edge, Mrs. Craddock, Chequer Board and Gone with the Wind. I am thankful to my father who inculcated the habit of reading in me early on.
I am also passionate about traveling, I have been to most parts of India and to several countries across the globe.
On professional front, I work in Human Resources function. Over two and half decades, I have worked across multiple industries and cultures. I focus on Leadership Development, Talent Management, Visioning and Culture, Large-scale change, Employee Listening & Engagement, Employee Well-being, Inclusive work culture, HR effectiveness, Behavior and Mind-set shifts through sustained interventions
I currently lead Organization Effectiveness Function for Aditya Birla Group, a $44.3 billion conglomerate with 120000 employees across 35 countries.
I sincerely hope that you will enjoy reading my blog. I look forward to your thoughts and suggestions.
Thank you!
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